I’m sure I grew up with the best Mother on the face of the earth. To me, she was everything a mother should be. She loved my father, she loved me and my sisters and she adored her grandchildren and great grandchildren and loved everything to do with home, family and church life. To me, she was extraordinary. She moved to heaven almost three years ago at the age of 92. She was truly the heartbeat of our home.
Its been said that a mother is the primary influence for raising happy, healthy, secure children, Daycare centers, churches and Christian Schools were not meant to raise our children - they can come a long side and aid us in our God-given assignments, but the assignments is ours. This is a mission that has been given to us by God Himself.
Many children of all ages are starving for affection and attention. They are restless and have no sense of purpose or destiny, partly because parents do not have any sense of purpose and destiny in their parenting. Hollow, empty adults produce hollow, empty children with no hope for a future.
What exactly does God require of us as mothers? Deuteronomy 6:1-9 (Amp)”And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with your entire being and with all your might. And these words, which I am commanding you this day, shall be first in your mind and heart…”
God is requiring us to make sure the love of God and His Word is engraved in our hearts first. We can not pass on what we do not know. If mothers do not take the time to find out what God is asking of us, then we will never tap into the anointing that He reserved for us.
Proper mothering is not the cure-all for family problems because there are many factors which influence the growth of children, but it is the answer to many problems that our children face. We have been given the responsibility and privilege to provide the love and care our children need so they can grow into mature, productive, healthy adults accomplishing much for God and His Kingdom.
So, lets get practical - how do we really do this? Allow me to share some simple lessons I have learned that really helped me to keep my mission as a mother focused and steady because it sure is easy to veer off with the busyness of everyday life.
1. Spend time with your children.
This is your child’s primary need. No one else can take your place. One of the most important investments you make into the life of your child is conversation along with a liberal supply of hugs and kisses! Ideally, you begin this when they are small. Don’t expect your child to talk to you when they are 16 when you wouldn’t spend time with them when they were six. Develop a safe environment for conversation when they are young and you will have laid a good foundation for them to continue to talk to you when they are teenagers.
In order to direct your child in life, you have to first connect with them. Be a part of their life. Talk with them, be interested in their day, know who their friends are, be involved in their school life. Do you know even know your child’s favorite color? Favorite meal? Names of friends? Get in their world.
If you spend time with them, you’ll know the answer to these questions and so much more.
2. Remember that God loaned those children to you, you do not own them.
God has given us the stewardship of our children. A steward is one who manages what belongs to another. Our children have been loaned to us by God to raise them for His plan and purpose for their lives - not ours. God has put in each child a unique purpose to fulfill. As Mothers, we do not determine what that is, we help our children to discover it. Pray with them and show them how to develop the hearing voice of God. The greatest lessons you can teach your child is how to make right choices by listening to their spirit man.
Keep your eyes and ears open to what they are drawn to as it will give you an idea of what their strengths and giftings are. Train them in the way they should go, not the way you want them to go.
3. Set their Hope in God. - Ps. 78:1-11 (Amp)
These Scriptures encourage us to pass on the goodness of God to the next generation-to make sure they know and understand the wonderful things God has done in the family. If we do not take time to set their hope in God, they will set their hope in the world’s system. The devil will be right there to distract and tempt your children to set their hope in his deceitfulness, and false promises . As a family, pray and welcome God to demonstrate Himself to your children.
No matter how low this world gets, you can teach your child to set their hope in a good God who will never relax His hold on them.
4. Give your children a heritage of faith.
In II Timothy 1:5, The Apostle Paul is encouraging his spiritual son Timothy, who was going through a very difficult time in his life. He says to Timothy, “I am calling up memories of your sincere and unqualified faith that first lived permanently in the heart of your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am fully persuaded dwells in you.”
Paul was reminding Timothy of the spiritual heritage that he had and the faith that was in his grandmother’s and mother’s heart. He is telling Timothy that the same faith is in him too.
You might say “I do not have that kind of heritage to pass on. Yes you do! It can begin right now with you! Give God’s Word preeminence in your life and home and you will pass on the greatest inheritance you could ever leave your family - a legacy of faith.
Stay steady with the promises of God and be confident that you are laying down a highway of faith for generations to come!
5. See every child’s potential!
You, as a Mother, must see the God-given potential in your children regardless of what you see or others say. This will really help keep you on your knees! You must believe in their potential and be confident in what God put in them. You must contend in prayer for the destiny of your child.
Your mission as a mother compels you to believe in your child’s potential regardless of what others may say. Every child is different, unique, gifted and anointed. You must believe they are diamonds in the rough, leaders in the making! We, as mothers, are graced to draw it out of them. They are the fruit of our labor, our reward in life. Do not tell them what they are not - tell them of the greatness God put in them! Your God-given words are a gift to them.
We have the ability to create an environment in our homes that can be the dwelling place of God where the love of Jesus is experienced at every turn. Our homes should be a place of refuge for a weary family who seek retreat from a world that is satan’s domain.
When we as mothers are content in our calling and aware of our mission, our homes will be saturated with His love and our children will receive the benefits and pass them on to the next generation! God is with you to fulfill His mission for you as a mother!