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Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Have you ever heard the saying that “marriages are made in heaven?” Sounds wonderful and who doesn’t want that, except that those marriages that are made in heaven, have to be lived out here on the earth. Here lies the challenge.

We are all, by human nature, selfish people. After working with people for over four decades, I can confidently say that selfishness is the number one reason relationships suffer and fail. Let’s be honest - we all want what we want when we want it. We may be able to get by with that behavior when we are two years old, but it is not very attractive as an adult and certainly not productive in a marriage. Selfishness destroys the joy in marriage.

Anything left to itself unattended and neglected will, at some point, need restoration.

Marriage, in its original state, is beautiful, but over a period of time, things can get weathered and begin to deteriorate. When we fail to tend to our marriages, along with the challenges of everyday life, our marriages get worn out, tired and need to be restored. Silence has replaced laughter and the thrill is gone.

Be The One

Be The One

It seems now, more than ever, the voices of ingratitude are incredibly loud. People tend to dwell on the negative and ignore the positive. Conversations lean toward what is wrong instead of what is right and so many are living with a gray cloud hanging over their heads. Is anyone thankful and saying so?

For the child of God, thankfulness is not confined to a day or a season, it is an attitude that we should have everyday and every hour. Living life grateful should be the mark of every believer.

Jesus told a story in Scripture that illustrates the tragedy of the ungrateful heart…

Jewels In My Journal

Jewels In My Journal

Periodically I will grab a few journals, sit in a quiet place with a cup of tea, and read through them page by page. Many times, it is as if I’m seeing these thoughts for the first time and I get filled and charged all over again by the jewels in my journals. I thought I would share a few leadership thoughts with you today.

Whatever Happened To Sundays?

Whatever Happened To Sundays?

There seems to be a never-ending challenge for people today – trying to find a rhythm to their lives. The greatest enemy we have today is busyness. This enemy wraps itself in good intentions and necessary obligations and works its way into the lives of people. Before they know it, days, weeks, months and years have passed without giving the necessary time to the most important relationships in their lives. Sound familiar?

My husband recently taught an outstanding message entitled “First Things First.” This teaching really captured my heart and caused me to take personal inventory of my life and priorities. I made some adjustments and I continue to contend to keep “first things first” in all areas of my life.

The Power of A Mission

The Power of A Mission

As New Englanders, Verna and I enjoy having four distinct seasons; winter, spring, summer and fall. Each one is unique and enjoyable. As pastors, we also enjoy each church season that comes and September is one of those seasons. It’s a great time to reconnect after a busy summer and focus the church and your team back on the mission. It is another fresh start.

Not too long ago, I did just that. I stood before hundreds of our Dream Team volunteers and said, “I want you to understand, without a shadow of a doubt, that what you do every time you serve is a very big deal.” I then had them all declare these next four statements out loud…

What I Know Now After 42 Years of Marriage

What I Know Now After 42 Years of Marriage

Last week I gave you my perspective on “What I wish I Knew Before I Got Married.” If you haven’t read that, take a moment to go back and read it - especially if you are single.

A few weeks ago, Jonathan and I celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary so I thought I would give you my thoughts on a few things I now know after 42 years of marriage.

What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

This month, Jonathan and I celebrated 42 years of marriage. What an adventurous journey this has been. There have been a lot of ups and downs, great times, and tough times, but the faithfulness of God, His Word and our love for each other have been the glue that has held us together. I wouldn’t want to be adventuring with anyone else but my first and only love.

I met Jonathan when I was 16 on a missions trip to Mexico. That is a story in itself that I will save for another time. As much as I loved him, being in love is not enough to build a good foundation for marriage. Being in love and being prepared is the best way to start.

Preparation helps you navigate the pressures of life and there are a lot of pressures in marriage and in ministry.

In our circles, over 40 years ago, no one was talking about preparing for marriage…

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

When I was young in marriage and in ministry, over forty years ago, my father gave me the greatest advice I have ever received.

It was during a time of great turmoil and upheaval and I felt betrayed and forgotten. In great distress, I unloaded all my pain to my father. He never interrupted me. He just looked at me and listened. When I finally finished, he said to me…

Fight For Your Family

Fight For Your Family

It is obvious that the attack of the enemy in the 21st century is on the home. The values that we cherish and the godly principles that we have dedicated ourselves to are worth fighting for.

If we want to win our families to God, it all starts by standing up and fighting for them! Drawing the line in the sand saying, “No more devil! Enough is enough!”

Think about this for a moment.

  • Do you want to be right or reconciled?

  • Do you want to continue being hurt or do you want to be healed?

  • Do you want to keep being the victim or start becoming whole?

If you’ll fight for your family God will fight for you.
If you’ll fight for your freedom God will fight for you. 

Below is a passionate message that I recently shared with our congregation on this subject.

Verna and I are standing together with you for your freedom and for victory for your family. 

6 Keys To Living Fired Up!

6 Keys To Living Fired Up!

Many years ago, I read an article from the late Dr. Lester Sumrall, one of the great Apostles of faith, and this question was asked of him: “Dr. Sumrall, how do you maintain the energy to do all that you do?” And in Dr. Sumrall style he gruffly answered, “I am intensely interested in what I do!”

When I read Dr. Sumrall’s response to that question, it lit a fire in me to have the zeal of God consume me like it did him.  While I am still on that journey and continue to make spiritual progress in that area, I was prompted to hear from God on how to live this lifestyle of continuous energy. I want to share some of those insights with you.