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Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Have you ever heard the saying that “marriages are made in heaven?” Sounds wonderful and who doesn’t want that, except that those marriages that are made in heaven, have to be lived out here on the earth. Here lies the challenge.

We are all, by human nature, selfish people. After working with people for over four decades, I can confidently say that selfishness is the number one reason relationships suffer and fail. Let’s be honest - we all want what we want when we want it. We may be able to get by with that behavior when we are two years old, but it is not very attractive as an adult and certainly not productive in a marriage. Selfishness destroys the joy in marriage.

Anything left to itself unattended and neglected will, at some point, need restoration.

Marriage, in its original state, is beautiful, but over a period of time, things can get weathered and begin to deteriorate. When we fail to tend to our marriages, along with the challenges of everyday life, our marriages get worn out, tired and need to be restored. Silence has replaced laughter and the thrill is gone.

Be The One

Be The One

It seems now, more than ever, the voices of ingratitude are incredibly loud. People tend to dwell on the negative and ignore the positive. Conversations lean toward what is wrong instead of what is right and so many are living with a gray cloud hanging over their heads. Is anyone thankful and saying so?

For the child of God, thankfulness is not confined to a day or a season, it is an attitude that we should have everyday and every hour. Living life grateful should be the mark of every believer.

Jesus told a story in Scripture that illustrates the tragedy of the ungrateful heart…

Jewels In My Journal

Jewels In My Journal

Periodically I will grab a few journals, sit in a quiet place with a cup of tea, and read through them page by page. Many times, it is as if I’m seeing these thoughts for the first time and I get filled and charged all over again by the jewels in my journals. I thought I would share a few leadership thoughts with you today.

What I Know Now After 42 Years of Marriage

What I Know Now After 42 Years of Marriage

Last week I gave you my perspective on “What I wish I Knew Before I Got Married.” If you haven’t read that, take a moment to go back and read it - especially if you are single.

A few weeks ago, Jonathan and I celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary so I thought I would give you my thoughts on a few things I now know after 42 years of marriage.

What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

This month, Jonathan and I celebrated 42 years of marriage. What an adventurous journey this has been. There have been a lot of ups and downs, great times, and tough times, but the faithfulness of God, His Word and our love for each other have been the glue that has held us together. I wouldn’t want to be adventuring with anyone else but my first and only love.

I met Jonathan when I was 16 on a missions trip to Mexico. That is a story in itself that I will save for another time. As much as I loved him, being in love is not enough to build a good foundation for marriage. Being in love and being prepared is the best way to start.

Preparation helps you navigate the pressures of life and there are a lot of pressures in marriage and in ministry.

In our circles, over 40 years ago, no one was talking about preparing for marriage…

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

When I was young in marriage and in ministry, over forty years ago, my father gave me the greatest advice I have ever received.

It was during a time of great turmoil and upheaval and I felt betrayed and forgotten. In great distress, I unloaded all my pain to my father. He never interrupted me. He just looked at me and listened. When I finally finished, he said to me…