Parenting

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

Choose Bitter or Better; It's Up To You

When I was young in marriage and in ministry, over forty years ago, my father gave me the greatest advice I have ever received.

It was during a time of great turmoil and upheaval and I felt betrayed and forgotten. In great distress, I unloaded all my pain to my father. He never interrupted me. He just looked at me and listened. When I finally finished, he said to me…

Fight For Your Family

Fight For Your Family

It is obvious that the attack of the enemy in the 21st century is on the home. The values that we cherish and the godly principles that we have dedicated ourselves to are worth fighting for.

If we want to win our families to God, it all starts by standing up and fighting for them! Drawing the line in the sand saying, “No more devil! Enough is enough!”

Think about this for a moment.

  • Do you want to be right or reconciled?

  • Do you want to continue being hurt or do you want to be healed?

  • Do you want to keep being the victim or start becoming whole?

If you’ll fight for your family God will fight for you.
If you’ll fight for your freedom God will fight for you. 

Below is a passionate message that I recently shared with our congregation on this subject.

Verna and I are standing together with you for your freedom and for victory for your family. 

FIGHTING INDIFFERENCE

FIGHTING INDIFFERENCE

For the waywardness of the simple will kill them, and the complacency of fools will destroy them. Proverbs 1:32 (NIV)

Indifference is a huge destructive influence in people’s lives.

The word indifference is defined: that which is looked upon as not mattering one way or another, that which is regarded as being of no significant importance or value.

Because of indifference, so many people don't live life to the fullest. Many never learn to care deeply about anything worthwhile.

And worse of all, God opportunities are missed and never realized.

Let me give you three symptoms of indifference.

1. Satisfaction with things the way they are - marriage, family, career, relationship with God and others; satisfied with living in the comfort zone you created and the status quo.

2. A rejection of things as they could be - Your mindset might be, “I don't like what I have but I really have little hope that it will ever change.” Or, “I just know it's going to require too much work on my part so—forget it.”

3.  Apathy which means a near total lack of interest and concern about something.
Apathy drains your passions, depletes your excitement and dulls your concern.

I pray not one of these three symptoms describes you.

The Mission of a Mother

The Mission of a Mother

You, as a Mother, must see the God-given potential in your children regardless of what you see or others say. This will really help keep you on your knees! You must believe in their potential and be confident in what God put in them. You must contend in prayer for the destiny of your child.

Your mission as a mother compels you to believe in your child’s potential regardless of what others may say. Every child is different, unique, gifted and anointed. You must believe they are diamonds in the rough, leaders in the making! We, as mothers, are graced to draw it out of them.  They are the fruit of our labor, our reward in life. Do not tell them what they are not - tell them of the greatness God put in them! Your God-given words are a gift to them.

5 Ways to Develop a Vision for Your Family

5 Ways to Develop a Vision for Your Family

“When I grow up, I want to be a teacher.”  “When I grow, up I want to be a fireman.” “When I grow up, I want to be an astronaut.”  “When I grow up, I want to travel the world.” After 40 years of ministry and more than two decades of overseeing a Christian school, I’ve heard children communicate multiple different career choices, but rarely have I heard anyone say, “When I grow up, I want to be a great father,” or “I want to be a great mother, and have a great family.”

Ten Annointed Nuggets for Parents

Ten Annointed Nuggets for Parents

Over the past 35+ years of pastoring International Family Church, Jonathan and I have been asked hundreds of questions about parenting children of all ages. We have always tried to be as open as possible about our struggles and mistakes so that you could learn from them and grow and see your family strengthened. God wants you to enjoy your family and enjoy the journey of all the stages and ages of your children.