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Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Restoring the Joy In Marriage

Have you ever heard the saying that “marriages are made in heaven?” Sounds wonderful and who doesn’t want that, except that those marriages that are made in heaven, have to be lived out here on the earth. Here lies the challenge.

We are all, by human nature, selfish people. After working with people for over four decades, I can confidently say that selfishness is the number one reason relationships suffer and fail. Let’s be honest - we all want what we want when we want it. We may be able to get by with that behavior when we are two years old, but it is not very attractive as an adult and certainly not productive in a marriage. Selfishness destroys the joy in marriage.

Anything left to itself unattended and neglected will, at some point, need restoration.

Marriage, in its original state, is beautiful, but over a period of time, things can get weathered and begin to deteriorate. When we fail to tend to our marriages, along with the challenges of everyday life, our marriages get worn out, tired and need to be restored. Silence has replaced laughter and the thrill is gone.

Get Up and Get Going

Get Up and Get Going

There is a word in my heart for you as we step into 2019. It's the word... ARISE.

The word arise simply means to get up and get going.

This may be the answer you have been looking for. Sometimes we make overcoming our difficulties a bigger problem than it needs to be.

You might be asking God...

  • “What do I do now?”

  • “How can I survive this?"

  • "How can I afford to do that?”

God’s answer to you may well be what it was to many other people in the Bible who experienced difficulties and overwhelming despair and disappointment with life.

The Power of Hope

The Power of Hope

In the midst of all the craziness, if you were to ask me to use one word that would best describe the overall frame of mind of the people I come in contact with, it would be hopelessness.

Just recently three people told me how they have been fighting hopelessness in their lives. Two because of ongoing health challenges and one with ongoing family challenge. Hopelessness is very real, especially during the end of the year.

What is real hope?

Be The One

Be The One

It seems now, more than ever, the voices of ingratitude are incredibly loud. People tend to dwell on the negative and ignore the positive. Conversations lean toward what is wrong instead of what is right and so many are living with a gray cloud hanging over their heads. Is anyone thankful and saying so?

For the child of God, thankfulness is not confined to a day or a season, it is an attitude that we should have everyday and every hour. Living life grateful should be the mark of every believer.

Jesus told a story in Scripture that illustrates the tragedy of the ungrateful heart…

Jewels In My Journal

Jewels In My Journal

Periodically I will grab a few journals, sit in a quiet place with a cup of tea, and read through them page by page. Many times, it is as if I’m seeing these thoughts for the first time and I get filled and charged all over again by the jewels in my journals. I thought I would share a few leadership thoughts with you today.

Whatever Happened To Sundays?

Whatever Happened To Sundays?

There seems to be a never-ending challenge for people today – trying to find a rhythm to their lives. The greatest enemy we have today is busyness. This enemy wraps itself in good intentions and necessary obligations and works its way into the lives of people. Before they know it, days, weeks, months and years have passed without giving the necessary time to the most important relationships in their lives. Sound familiar?

My husband recently taught an outstanding message entitled “First Things First.” This teaching really captured my heart and caused me to take personal inventory of my life and priorities. I made some adjustments and I continue to contend to keep “first things first” in all areas of my life.

The Power of A Mission

The Power of A Mission

As New Englanders, Verna and I enjoy having four distinct seasons; winter, spring, summer and fall. Each one is unique and enjoyable. As pastors, we also enjoy each church season that comes and September is one of those seasons. It’s a great time to reconnect after a busy summer and focus the church and your team back on the mission. It is another fresh start.

Not too long ago, I did just that. I stood before hundreds of our Dream Team volunteers and said, “I want you to understand, without a shadow of a doubt, that what you do every time you serve is a very big deal.” I then had them all declare these next four statements out loud…

6 Ways To Develop Uncommon Faith

6 Ways To Develop Uncommon Faith

Summer here in New England is coming to a close even though it doesn’t officially end until mid-September. People’s minds are shifting to the Autumn as families prepare to gear up for the approaching school season. I prefer to squeeze out every day of summer I can until it is officially over.

We are currently on family vacation in Lake Placid, New York in the beautiful Adirondack Mountains. This is the home of the 1980 Olympics - right here in Lake Placid. As I step out onto the balcony from our bedroom, which is on 10 acres with a magnificent mountain view, I have the perfect view of the ski lift used in the Olympics which always reminds me of my favorite movie - Miracle.

How to Hear the Voice of God

How to Hear the Voice of God

Everyone struggles, at some point in life, with their confidence in hearing the voice of God and discerning His direction for their lives.  

  • “Is that God really talking to me?”

  • “Do I take that job or this job?”

  • “Is he/she the one for me?”

  • “Do I stay or do I go?”

  • “Do I buy this house or that house?”

Over the years, I have observed that there are, broadly speaking, two distinct schools of thinking among believers with regard to divine guidance and the discovery of God’s will for our lives.

School #1 - By far the largest, is summed up by the mentality that says: “I don’t move without God’s guidance.”

School #2 - The complete opposite, says: “I don’t expect God’s guidance until I move.”

One Constant In The Chaos of Change

One Constant In The Chaos of Change

We’ve all heard it—the one thing that will never change is the need for change. We can resist it, ignore it, and complain about it but there is no growth without change and with change, oftentimes, comes chaos.

Whether we are responding to change or creating it, we must have an aspect of our lives that is permanent and stable—something that transcends the past, the present, and the future.

We need to keep our minds and hearts established in who we are, where we are going, and the values we govern our lives by. We all need a constant. There is only One who can fill that need. Our one constant in the midst of the chaos of change is God, our Creator.